Why I decided to Transition

After 3 attempts I finally went all the way through with transitioning. My first try was back in high school. One of my friends decided to go through it with me. Needless to say that after 3 mos of new growth we was running to the store for a box perm! LOL! The second time was after I moved to Delaware in '06. My hair was growing out after I had gotten a faux hawk cut and I was getting micros. I got micros back to back for a combo of 6 mos. I noticed my curl pattern and decided to go ahead and not get a perm. Lets just say that didn't last long. The third time was when I got pregnant with my youngest. It was an unexpected pregnancy and since I new I would get that extra hair growth that most pregnant women get I decided it was a good time. But since my husband (now separated) liked girls with longer hair I got another relaxer to please him. Then when I was 5 mos pregnant, I found out my mom was transitioning and she did her big chop in September of that year. So it really motivated me to go all the way since she looked like an African goddess. So after studying this natural hair phenomenon (when I do something I always study it) I found out how bad relaxers were for our hair. I found out that our hair is actually stripped everytime we get one. That's why the instructions say not to place on already relaxed hair (only new growth) eventhough we still do that. And that's one of the reasons why the hair looks thinner at the ends. Another thing that motivated me was that I was reading how a lot of black women have negative views on natural hair eventhough that's who we truely are. And I realized I grew up with the same thinking that natural hair is nappy and bad, but this was because that's what I was taught. I do not want my beautiful daughters feeling the same way. This was my beginning to end the cycle. The last reason was that I was just too damn tired of getting relaxers every 3 mos. I dreaded it every 3 mos. This was something that I felt if I didn't want to do it, then I simply should stop.